Freedom from porn for Christian men
Tired of promises?The next 30 days could be different.
Thirty days. One day at a time. No shame. Scripture, practical tools, and a practice that fits in your pocket.
$27 one-time
Thirty days, with three months of access.
Created by Bernard Faulhammer: coach with 20 years of pastoral experience, and previously a volunteer regional church and group advisor for Pure Desire Ministries.
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From men we've walked with
These words come from men we have coached and from the groups we have facilitated. They speak of that work, not of the 30-Day Reset.
Working with Bernard helped me understand my own patterns, face things I'd been avoiding, and take responsibility. It hasn't happened overnight, but I'm learning to live like the man God made me to be.
Being part of the group has changed my day-to-day life. For the first time, I could open up with other guys who understood the journey. I'm working towards becoming the man my family can trust, and I honestly don't know if I could have done it without my brothers.
Working with Bernard helped me see how far I'd drifted from the people closest to me and how I was avoiding the love of God. The conversations and tools he shared helped me process my story and start making changes in my life. It was a real turning point for me.
The problem
You Know the Cycle.
You tell yourself this is the last time. You mean it, too. But then something happens — stress, boredom, loneliness or just an old habit — and you find yourself back where you started.
Afterwards, there's regret. Maybe you pray, promise yourself you'll do better and try to move on.
But a few days later, it happens again.
You don't need another promise. You need to understand what's driving the pattern and learn a different way forward.
That's what the Crossover Men 30-Day Reset is designed to help you do, with biblical truth and practical steps you can put into action each day.
Right now
Feeling pulled right now? Breathe with this.
Sixty seconds of slow breathing and one verse to hold. Nothing is saved, and you don't need an account.
Christ in me
Inhale · 2
Colossians 1:27 · In for four, out for six.
How the Reset works
A daily rhythm you can actually follow.
This is not a programme to complete. It is worked out one ordinary day at a time, in a simple structure you can follow even on a hard one.
Check in — Recognise what you're feeling and what you're carrying into the day.
Read — Connect Scripture and Christian teaching with the struggle you're facing.
Practise — Learn to recognise triggers, pause and choose a different response.
Reach out — Build the habit of honest connection rather than facing everything alone.
Review — Reflect on what happened, what you learned and what you want to carry into tomorrow.
Inside the Reset
What it actually looks like.
Real screens from the thirty days — nothing mocked up.
Grace first · ANCHORED
Grace first. Eight steps. One rhythm.
This isn't about cleaning yourself up so you can finally come back to God.
Grace gives you the courage to tell the truth, bring what's hidden into the light, receive support, and take responsibility for change.
You can acknowledge where you've struggled without allowing shame to define who you are. And you don't have to face everything alone.
You don't need the perfect explanation. You can start by telling the truth to someone you trust.
Out of that grace comes the ANCHORED framework: a practical way to work through difficult moments. Instead of simply promising to do better next time, you learn to recognise what's happening, pause, consider what you need and choose your next faithful action.
What am I experiencing?
You'll return to these steps throughout the thirty days, learning to recognise your patterns and practise a different response.
Further reading
For the road you are on.
Desire
What Were You Thirsty For?
Before it became your biggest problem, it was how you got through. Understanding that is where freedom starts.
Read articleTemptation
Tempted Without Sin: Why Jesus' Temptation Came From Without and Ours Comes From Within And Without
Jesus was truly tempted, and He never sinned. Understanding how His temptation differed from ours can lift the guilt you were never meant to carry.
Read articleHonesty
To the man who only falls once in a while
You fall sometimes, not often. Life carries on, so it feels survivable — but the pattern is still intact, and grace has more to say to you than you think.
Read articleRealistic expectations
What Can 30 Days Really Do?
Thirty days won't complete your journey, and no program can guarantee a particular outcome.
But thirty days can give you a structured opportunity to begin understanding your patterns, identifying vulnerable moments, practising healthier responses, and strengthening your connection with God and others.
The Reset is a beginning, not a finish line.
The 30-Day Reset
Everything the Reset holds.
A guided thirty-day experience for Christian men who are ready to understand their patterns, build healthier responses and take practical steps towards lasting change.
Our daily journey includes
- Short neuroscience lessons to understand habits and triggers.
- Guided breathing and moments to pause before reacting.
- Honest journaling and self-reflection.
- Biblical truth and faith-centred reflection.
- Daily check-ins, tools and practical steps to help you move forward.
The 30-Day Reset · $27 one-time
- ✓30 days, opened one day at a time
- ✓Open on your account for three months
- ✓A morning check-in and an evening review
- ✓Scripture and biblical teaching each day
- ✓The eight-step ANCHORED framework
- ✓Trigger awareness, practical tools and SOS support
Created by Bernard Faulhammer: coach with 20 years of pastoral experience, and previously a volunteer regional church and group advisor for Pure Desire Ministries.
Private and discreet. Secure checkout via Stripe.
“Thanks for taking the time to listen and check in on me. Your voice messages and encouragement have meant a lot. Sometimes, just knowing someone genuinely cares makes a real difference. Thanks, brother.”
From a man we have coached. He speaks of that work, not of the 30-Day Reset.
The 30-Day Reset · $27 one-time
Thirty days, open on your account for three months. No subscription.
Questions
A few things men ask first.
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The Reset is a faith-based guide, not therapy and not a substitute for professional counselling, medical care or pastoral support. If you need more, please reach out.
Crossover Men · The 30-Day Reset
Your next step starts today.
You don't have to wait until you're more motivated.
You don't have to have the whole road mapped out.
You can begin by understanding your patterns, practising a different response and taking one faithful step at a time.